1. Having too many expectations
When we have too many expectations, we are not going to be able to work with others, because it will often cause conflict with others, and that will only give us more trouble than a peace of mind.
2. Comparing ourselves with others
The truth is, there is no end to the comparison game. No matter who we compare ourselves to, there will always be someone out there who are better at doing what we did. Comparison puts our focus on the wrong thing and person.
3. Toxic people
Negative people are good at telling us what we are not capable of becoming, while influencing us to believe that what they say is true. They will not only drag our energy down, but also crush our dream by constantly reminding us of how impossible it is to get to where we want to be. Surrounding ourselves with these people will sabotage our happiness.
We can always choose who we want to spend our time with. We can spend our time with positive people who talks about ideas, who are willing to exchange information and who can provide us with useful knowledge.
4. Holding grudges
People often carry on grudges while having moral battles with the one who has done them wrong, casting themselves as the righteous and the other person in the wrong.
What they don’t realize is that they waste too much energy on it, and eventually put themselves into a darker side of the situation.
Whatever damage that the person causes cannot be undone, therefore holding on to it is only going to gradually damage you..
5. Self importance
Self importance is a product of fear. People who believe in self importance are afraid of losing their ego over anything else. They view themselves as an extremely important person, and expect everyone around them to put them as a priority in any situation. These behaviors will eventually damage their relationship with the people around them, and leads to an isolated life.
If we all learn to have gratitude towards the people around us, we will learn that what and who we are today are somewhat influenced by them.
6. Suppressing emotions
Holding back on our emotions might lead to depression. We might think that showing our emotions would make us vulnerable, but the truth is, a truly strong person is able to show all their emotions because they are not afraid to acknowledge that they are only human, and that is is absolutely okay to feel.
When we are open to our emotions, and are honest about them, we are setting ourselves free from the heavy emotional burden that are otherwise buried inside of us.
7. Worrying too much over the future
There are many other ways to secure our future than to be worrying over it. It is so important to value each moment of our lives since we only live once.
To worry over the future takes away our precious moments, because we are too distracted to enjoy living the here and now.
We can set goals and be productive to secure our future.
8. Putting others down
Some people think that putting others down will boost themselves up. There is a saying that blowing out someone else’s candle doesn’t make yours shine any brighter.
People criticize and put others down so they can have the feeling of superiority, so they can hide their own insecurities. Strong people don’t put others down, instead they lift them up.
To blame our faults on someone else is a fairly convenient way to get away from trouble. But what we don’t know, is that when we put the responsibility on someone else, we are actually putting ourselves at risk of not having the control over our situation. We become the victim of our circumstances.
When we stop blaming others, we begin to discover who we truly are. We will find peace within ourselves when we realize that our happiness is entirely our own responsibility.
It is important to know that we are the ones who create the time pressure for ourselves. It might seem like we are often running out of time, but the truth is, if we manage our time efficiently, there is always enough time in the day.
What we can do is to set priority to things that matter more over things that are less important to us. We can’t have all the time in the world, and we can’t do everything we want to do at the same time. But we can manage our time, set priorities, and try to get the other things done when we have the time and opportunity to do them.